When You're Not Feeling So Loved

​What do you do as a human when not feeling loved by others, feels so unsettling to you?

Well, my dear child that is a very good question to put out there.  My answer is kind yet short and sweet. You really begin to learn to practice going within yourself more.  It’s a strong request, but you won’t find your mom and dad's energy in there, nor your grandma and grandpa. What you will find is a peaceful place that holds that love for you very gently and very kindly without feeling or being charged or even lacking.  Yes, it is in our human nature form to want to give and definitely receive love.  But what if that love is not reciprocated whether it be from a parent, a spouse, even your kids?  It’s hard as humans to not personalize why the love is not coming or think there is something wrong with us? Or I must have done something wrong for my loved one to be withholding their love to me. And then what can happen? We can become so unraveled and sad and expect it to fix itself when ultimately, we have to realize that we are made of love itself and our withholding ones cannot always give us everything we need, especially in those insecure moments. 

So, you have to learn to hold love for yourself.  So how do you hold and soothe love for yourself you ask?

You breathe lovingly and deeply with me in you and feel the heldness of all that you truly are.  Truly are.  Your heart is made of pure love it is indeed your birthright.  There is no obstacle to finding your true self only your idea of it. 

And the second key answer to this, I will say over and over again is to breathe into the present moment each time.  There is nothing like knowing your entitled to feeling everything now, not the emotional withheld memories in your system.  I know, believe me I know how that fight or flight can want to fly off the handles if you feel triggered by something, but my dear ones just gentle reminders it doesn’t have to take over your present moment anymore, with conscious intention you can now acknowledge what is happening or triggering you and you can decide in your beautiful adult self to just chose compassion and remind yourself, you are no longer that little girl or boy anymore. 

Does that make any sense?  Conscious intention, mindful moments, a gentle exhalation in between it all.  These tools truly go a long way.  Look through, watch through, breathe through those feelings of unworthiness. 

One more time before we roll, you are worthy always of knowing love for yourself, even if you were slighted as a kid in some circumstances.  Try to remember most of our parents did the best they could with what they knew too.  Did I ever mention we have the capacity to actually break the unlovable cycle.   Just a thought.  But for now…. Agape and unconditional love to each of you always.  Call me in anytime, I am not going to leave you alone. 

You are each loved immeasurably,
Love Always,
God
10/16/2022